Not matter who you are, it’s never easy going through a break-up. Whether it was summer fling or a long-term relationship, it’s hard to move on from something that you have become so comfortable with. It’s not easy any easy process, so here are some tips to help you ease your journey through heart break.
Accept your emotions
During a break-up you may feel like The Hulk, always changing between intense emotional states. So it’s important that you know it’s ok to have different feelings, to feel frustrated, angry, exhausted, confused and sad. Allowing yourself to feel this can be scary and you may fear that they might be too intense, but grieving its loss is essential to moving on.
So don’t fight and shut out your feelings, because if you try to suppress them it will only prolong it. You are not superwoman, you need to take time to regroup, re-energize and heal. Give yourself permission to feel and function at a level that isn’t optimal for a certain amount of time. Then take 24 to 48 hours for just you, your emotions and favourite comfort food.
You will survive it
Going through a break up is like following Alice down the Rabbit hole. You are launched into a world of uncertainty where everything gets turned upside down, your responsibilities, routines and relationships. It represents a loss in your life of shared commitments and dreams, which causes stress, grief and disappointment.
If you isolate yourself it will get in the way of work, your health and relationships. It may bring you to a standstill at first, but after each day the sadness will begin to lift. So it’s important that you keep reminding yourself that you not only can but will move on. Remember, healing takes time so you need to be patient with yourself.
Take care of your-self In your hurricane of emotions it can be easy to lose track of what’s important right now. That’s to take care of yourself. So it’s important you treat your-self like a queen. Do this by minimizing your stress, eating healthily and regularly, exercising, getting plenty of sleep and reducing your workload if possible.
Be sure to avoid using drugs, alcohol, coffee and cigarettes and most of all resist the urge to stuff your face with comfort food. It will only make you feeling worse, gain weight and lose sleep. So why not make time for yourself daily by doing activities like meditation, yoga, going for nature walks, taking a hot bath or just having a warm cup of tea.
Go to others for support You may feel like detaching yourself from the world, but this will only make the process more difficult. Since you just lost someone important, you’ll need to get emotional support from others during this time. So share your feelings with a support group or your family and friends. If others are aware of your emotions then it can help you to not feel so alone and to heal.
It may be difficult to talk about your feelings at first, but it’s important that you find a way to do so during a break-up. So start by keeping a journal, it can help you to unload feelings that you can’t say out loud.
Overcoming a break up is never easy, so next time you find your-self in this situation why not use this tips to help you heal.