Personal Development

How many things have you started and put aside? If you can answer: "many", you are a starter. Do you tend to get excited about doing something, start it, then get sidetracked by interest in something new?

This can be a project, new career, hobby, business idea, investing idea, whatever, that has been put aside before completion for another.

Women can relate to this and are also likely quite frustrated with the lack of money, satisfaction and happiness in their life. What's the problem? You try so hard; you are always doing something yet no results.

Here is what is going on with the vicious cycle you are in: You don't have an overall direction in life to serve as a beacon to keep you on track.

You have not set specific goals, targets or a path to serve as benchmarks in your progress. You are not managing your time well or sticking to appropriate tasks. Bouncing from one thing to another shows you are not fully committed to a big picture.

You are not benefiting emotionally from the accomplishment of anything. Your confidence is likely not what it could be. Your frustration level is damaging to your energy and motivation. There must be a, yea but, in the back of your mind when you choose to do things.

Now a picture of what a success cycle looks like.

The fact that you are bouncing from interest to interest reveals that you are not aware of your purpose. Discovering your purpose in life gives you a solid foundation as to what you should be doing. You then can determine specifically what to do to fulfill the purpose. Your purpose is what you are here to do to serve the world, and your work is something that supports that.

Seeing and feeling your purpose will reveal a deep intent and a strong motivation. You will feel more like you are on a mission. This is what will help you keep focused and on task. You will have power to take command of your thinking, directing your thoughts and actions towards what supports your mission.

The, 'yea but' I mentioned above comes from your inner self trying to speak of what you really should be doing as you are doing other different things. Without consciously knowing it you will not give your all to one thing while your inner self is yearning for something else. All the things you are doing are just attempts to satisfy you ego thinking. You may think they

When you determine what you will do to accomplish fulfilling your purpose, you then need to set up the steps that will lead you to where you are fully engaged with your intent to support your purpose. You don't need to know exactly what each step is at the beginning, just enough to get going will do. You will discover more as you proceed in the right direction.

Accomplishing specific goals or targets along the way will give your confidence and motivation a boost. This is important in order to keep your energy and interest up at a high level. Continued accomplishment helps keep you motivated and willing to do what is necessary.

Daily planning and refocusing on the specific tasks to be accomplished each day is important. You must have a plan each day as well as the self-discipline to stick to it. It is so easy to get distracted with things that do not directly support your goal. You can actually be busy all day and not accomplish anything that you had set out to.

Time management is critical to your satisfaction and progress. There is not time to do everything you can think of in a day, you must learn to be selective in support of your immediate goal. This is reinforced with daily reminders of your purpose, intent and goals. Then set up a routine to plan your daily activities every day and be determined to stay on course.

Even if supporting your purpose includes several things, realize you can't do everything at once. One thing accomplished is more motivation that three things half-done. Determine in what order the projects must be done in and focus your attention on what is important now.

Your personal development is your responsibility, take control of your scattered thinking and find the key to focused attention. Happiness and satisfaction come through purposeful accomplishment.

Resilience: Internal and External Traits That Promote It

Some people are able to cope better during stressful situations while others struggle. But over time, anyone has the chance to learn and develop resilience. The article helps identify traits or characteristics that promote resilience.

What is Resilience?
Resilience is a person’s ability to bounce back from stressful or challenging experiences. It is a process where an individual navigates and negotiates with the resources in their environment in order to cope and thrive through various life challenges.

Resilience can reduce the impact that these events have on lives and the time taken to recover from them. It does not mean that realities are ignored, nor feelings and emotions shut out, but rather experience of disappointment, sadness, anger or grief is accepted, and proper perspective is maintained with a sense of hopefulness as life continues

Internal Traits That Promote Resilience
Internal traits or characteristics are things within a person’s control to develop. Each one will find that particular strategies may work better than others since building resilience is an individual journey. Some of these internal traits include:

•Ability to be flexible during times of change
•Ability to experience and manage negative emotions side by side with positive ones in a constructive way
•Capacity to make realistic goals and stick to them
•Good communication and problem-solving skills
•Feeling of optimism and positivity about the present and future
•Positive sense of confidence in developing one’s abilities and strengths
•Sense of purpose and meaning in life
How people cope depends on individual factors and experiences. Some of them people have less control over – like genetics, personality, ethnicity, and economic background. Life story can also play a part, including family history, previous physical and mental health issues, social and cultural experiences and how a person was able to cope with stresses in the past.

External Traits That Promote Resilience
Reaching out to others matters. Being resilient does not mean being standoffish or “going it alone.” A person’s internal strengths can benefit from external support. Some of these external characteristics include:

•Caring and supportive relationships
•Opportunities whereby other people benefit from the use of internal strengths, and vice-versa
•Sense of belonging, trust, and security within family, friends, workplace, school and community
•Service providers who are available and supportive
•Strong role models within and outside family and friends
Some experts suggest that we can have a powerful effect on our resilience by combining perhaps three of the external strengths in creative ways. For example, friends at work, a community social group and game of skills can be combined to form a tennis or bowling team from work. This can affect internal traits, such as building positive self-belief, relating to other people, confidence in one’s abilities, and a sense of purpose.

By taking advantage of these internal and external traits or characteristics that promote resilience, people are able to cope with life changes or crisis, bounce back from stress or difficulties, and accept experiences with a positive outlook.



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