Be in Control

In control Woman

What are the keys to developing control?  There are certain common factors in being in control and mastering your life and here are some points in developing such excellence:

Dedicate Your Life to Something
This is another way of saying, don’t be a jack of all trades and king of none.  If you really want to excel in life, find your true passion and pour yourself into it.  Once you determine what it is you love to do, give your life to it.

There may be many things you enjoy doing, and you will probably still be able to participate in them, but if you wish to master one thing, you will have to sacrifice some of these activities.  So focus on the thing you really love to do and find out exactly how well you can do it.

This is also the only way to not have any regrets in life.  You may win recognition, you may obtain material success as a result of your dedication, or you may not, but, when all is said and done, you will know deep in your heart that you gave life all you had and nothing more can really be asked of you.

Most of the necessary discipline for control and mastery will come out of your passion for the thing you are doing.  The best analogy of this is that it is like a river carving its own banks.  The flow and power of the river generates the necessary channel for it to then flow.  In a similar way your passion will generate the necessary discipline within which to excel.  But like with all women, moods will still certainly pose a challenge to you.

But often you will have to do what you have to do, regardless of how you happen to feel about it at that particular time.  This is the key to consistency, which is a cornerstone of control and for developing mastery of anything.

Once you develop this strength, to not make your decisions solely on the pleasure principle, your life will become available to you as a tapestry to paint your masterpiece on.

Don’t Concentrate on Results:
Once you know what you truly love to do, the hard part is done.  Now just concentrate on doing that particular thing as well as you can.  Don’t worry about the results, just worry about excelling in it to the best of your ability.

If you love to write, just write, don’t worry about selling a million copies.  If you like to dance, then dance.  Broadway will come knocking when it’s time.

Concentrating on the results, which are often not in your hands , can be a demoralizing and distracting factor.  If they don’t come fast enough, you may give up, and if you are driven by them, you may adjust your vision to commercialization pressures.  So, instead forget about results and focus on just doing.

Don’t Worry About Survival
This is easier said than done.  You don’t have to quit your job, dump your family or run away to the Himalayas.  There is usually never a need to make such drastic changes and these changes are usually just romantic ideas.  Having said that, mastery may certainly require you to take some risks, make some changes and show some courage.

Hopefully, you are lucky enough to figure out your true passions early in life.  Once you have done that, then let them guide you in choosing the commitments you make in life.  Once you make commitments, it is difficult to get out of them, so make them carefully.  For example, a 10 million Rand home sounds like a nice idea, but often it becomes a financial liability that limits your decision making.  (There is no problem with having a 10 million Rand home, the problem is if you are attached to it).

So you will have to show some courage, some guts, some valour in order to master the art of your choosing.  Trust that life will be there to take care of you and go for it.

Einstein was working on his equations, even as he lay on his death bed in the hospital.  That is passion, and that’s what it takes to be a master.

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