If you’re a shy girl you know that we are often misunderstood and perceived to be snobs or come across as being better than everyone around us. We know that this isn’t the impression we want to give off, but unfortunately this is sometimes the case. Moving from shy to confident shouldn’t be daunting and that is why we are here to help you in these four easy steps:
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First dates are often associated with new possibilities, excitement and relationship potential, but they are also associated with fear, apprehension and uncertainty. We know that there are challenges in dating and it’s understandable to feel nervous, vulnerable and overwhelmed especially if you’re shy.
1. Be yourself
Being confident in who you are and being comfortable in your own skin is the best advice we can give you. Giving off the right signals is important to opening up and making you seem approachable. Don’t pretend to be something that you’re not.
“Don’t try to be what you’re not. If you’re nervous, be nervous. If you’re shy, be shy.” – Adriana Lima
2. Choose a comfortable venue
Feeling comfortable with your surroundings is incredibly important. You need to pick a place that puts you at ease. People don’t realise how much the role of their environment affects us.
“Everyone shines, given the right lighting.” -Susan Cain
3. Conversation topics
We’ve all been in those situations where the silence goes on a little too long and you’re lost for words. To avoid this from happening, think of a few topics you can go to in case of emergency. Try talking to him as if he’s just your friend, this will help relieve some pressure.
“The way you overcome shyness is to become so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid.” – Claudia Lady Bird Johnson
We know that you aren’t a social butterfly, but being aware of your attitude is very important. Try to keep a flirty and positive approach. To make yourself seem open and available for conversation and not cold and closed off, be aware of your body language. The correct body language and attitude will let him know that you’re interested.
“It’s easy for us to mistake shyness for coldness, and silence for indifference.” – Lisa Kleypas, Devil in Winter
We cannot all be self-assured and confident but that is why life is beautiful, we need to be thankful that we are all different. Shyness should not be seen as a negative, instead try and use it to your advantage. Not only are you more thoughtful and a better listener, but you often see things that others might fail to see. No matter what age, gender, race, or sexuality you are, there is room for all personalities and we wish you all the best in your dating endeavours.
Written by Sarah Kantor