The Superwoman Symptoms
feelings of guilt, worthlessness, insomnia, loss of sex drive, extremes in weight gain/weight loss,
chronic fatigue, feelings of inadequacy & failure, irritability, anxiety Who is most likely to suffer from the "Superwoman Syndrome"?
- a high achiever by nature
- may have experienced high responsibility from a young age
- high expectations about her ability to perform and succeed
- “feeds” on people praising her abilities to be the superwoman
- often complains of her overextended schedule
- has difficulty in saying no
- over analyses and worries constantly
- has a hard time relaxing
- tries to be everything to everyone
- has difficulty in asking for help
Sound familiar? It does to me...
Meet the New Breed
There is a “New Breed” of business women. These women acknowledge the compromises they made in their personal and professional lives. These female superstars (started by top Silicon Valley execs) know their options. Instead of trying to have it all (like the superwoman model that emerged from the ‘70s women’s movement) they are focusing on what makes them satisfied.
These women are choosy, once they make a decision, they don’t look back. They let things go, and throw all their passion and energy into the path they decided to follow. They can come back to other interests later on.
Baskin and Kauffman call this pattern of behaviour “sequencing.” It can also be seen as “liberating”. "Sequencing," is doing things that are exciting or interesting to us, but not all at once. It is not attempting to perfect the juggling act. Instead, it’s concentrating on juggling one task at a time, and doing it really well.
Fulfilment = Success. In this Opt Out Revolution, achievement is measured as peace of mind, instead of a salary.
The Road to a Cure
Define Your Limits and compromise.
Ask yourself honestly “What am I really capable of doing well right now?” Put pen to paper and create columns of what is really important and what is not.
Recognize that you cannot have it all or be all, certainly not at the same time. Focus on one thing for a while. Do it well. Throw yourself into it and enjoy it. When you are ready, revisit that decision and see if you want to make a change.
Be comfortable with saying “No”.
Stop being a people-pleaser. You will end up overwhelmed and resentful. By saying no, you end the cycle of doing more and gaining less.
Create a back up before you need it. Build support structures, safety nets. This allows you to work when kids are sick, or deal with client emergencies.
Delegate without guilt. People around you have become used to the fact that you simply want to do it all yourself. Announce that this has changed and delegate.
Take mini-breaks through the year. Buy a non-refundable air ticket to go somewhere by at least April each year.
Indulge in the 4 pillars of health - regular exercise, good nutrition (limit caffeine & sugar), proper sleep and relaxation.
Realise you are a Human Being not a Human Doing. Know that being imperfect is human.
You don’t need to constantly struggle and not feel ahead of the game. Don’t expect every area of your life to change overnight. Small changes in your daily habits and mindset can lead to big improvements in the long run.
“Being a woman is a marathon not a sprint” - Anon
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