Recently I was asked by a curious woman what the key traits or characteristics are that define whether people live their dreams and achieve their goals or not. It is a great question and I came up with 4 things that I believe are pivotal and actually the only things needed…
1. Have a clear vision (that inspires the hell out of you!)
In my Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshops, I help people get clear vision and I teach them how to create a WIG. WIG stands for Wildly Improbable Goal and this is a goal that ignites you, delights you, excites you and terrifies you all at the same time. A Wildly Improbable Goal is something that takes you to the boundaries of possibility and impossibility… it is a goal that STRETCHES you. Take you out of your comfort zone. And help you to create an EXTRAORDINARY life.
Step 1 in achieving your goals is to get CLEAR on what you want. Knowing what you want is the biggest factor in being able to achieve it. Once you get clear – Write it down, cut out pictures of it and stick it up, tell other people in your life about it.
2. Overcome your Fears
Once you are clear about your goal, it is easy to listen to the inner voice that tries to talk you out of it. Those whisperings in your inner ear are simply FEAR. Fear is what stops us from taking actions on our goals. Fear is what makes up excuses rather than just doing it. Fear is what makes us procrastinate, feel lethargic or tempts us to distract ourselves from the task at hand.
I have written articles about the 7 Deadly Fears that stop us from living our dreams and how to overcome fear – read the articles.
Even when you are struggling and facing huge obstacles NEVER, ever, ever, give-up!
There will be times on the journey where life is smooth-sailing and fun and there will be other times when you experience challenges. This is all part of the adventure of living a powerful life. Persistence is what differentiates the truly extraordinary from the ordinary.
WE ARE NEVER ABLE TO DREAM UP A GOAL THAT WE CAN’T ACCOMPLISH.
I write extensively about this in my book “The Fairy Godmother’s Guide to Getting What you Want”. After working with thousands of people around the world to help them achieve their dreams and goals, I have realised that persistence is key.
When I want to give up (and believe me there have been many “quitting moments” along this path of being a Fairy Godmother), I remind myself that ‘It is always darkest just before the dawn’ and that while things may seem bleak right now, I am on the edge of a breakthrough. And, of course, I do breakthrough.
Faith is the “power-tool” to call on which activates your ability to persist.
Elizabeth Gilbert, in her book ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ writes it perfectly: ‘Faith is to pre-accept the terms of the universe and to embrace in advance what I am presently unable to understand…Faith is belief in what you cannot see or prove or touch. Faith is walking face-first and full speed into the dark…’
Faith is knowing that even though you are experiencing an obstacle or challenge right now, EVERYTHING is happening perfectly and everything is going to be okay. Faith is giving up your necessity to control every outcome and surrendering yourself to the greater plan of the divine.
Faith is realising that you are not the sole creator but the co-creator of your world. And that omnipotent knowledge and the ‘grand design’ are far more powerful and magnificent than your own ‘worms-eye-view’ of the world. Where your will and the will of the Divine meets, is where magic and miracles happen. Faith activates magic.
Donna McCallum aka The Fairy Godmother can help YOU get clear on your dreams and goals. On her full day Dream Mapping and Goal Setting Workshop you will not only get clarity and focus on your big goals, but you will also learn the necessary tools to use every day to turn them into reality.
The final Dream Mapping and Goal Setting Workshops for 2011 are taking place
Cape Town – Saturday 3 September from 10h00 – 18h30
Johannesburg – Saturday 10 September from 10h00 – 18h30
To book email firstname.lastname@example.org or call 082-411-3875
For more info www.fairygodmotherinc.com/workshops
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