Whether you are looking for a romantic partner or a platonic companion, dating and meeting new people can be potentially stressful and challenging. There are so many women out there that go on a first date but often have it end there. What are we doing wrong? Follow our five dating mistakes to avoid and see if you have fallen victim to any of these common mistakes.
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Remember to be cheerful and positive; dating is supposed to be enjoyable. There are three main things to avoid: Appearing desperate, suggesting risky behaviour and seeming uninterested. Be aware of your body posture. Crossing your legs and folding your arms is a no-no as it suggests closing yourself off.
Pauses in conversations can be awkward but filling the silence talking non-stop about yourself is even more awkward. Coming across as self-centred is not how we want to be perceived on a date. Common conversational mistakes include asking too many questions, talking about your ex, constantly talking about yourself, or even speaking negatively about yourself.
Remember to ask him questions as well and let him know that you’re interested in getting to know him. Plan some general questions beforehand so that you have conversation fillers should there be an awkward silence.
3. Technology at the table
Technology has made its way into every aspect of our lives, but this doesn’t mean it needs to be at the table on our date as well. Even if your friends are waiting by the phone for an update, it’s impolite and it sends across the message that you have better things to do and that you aren’t very interested in him. Leave your device in your hand bag and even better, put it on silent.
We have all heard the saying leave something to the imagination and this is an important concept to remember especially on a first date. We don’t want you to send the wrong message. Dress to impress by all means, but be appropriate. At the same time we don’t want you to look like you haven’t made an effort, so our advice to you is keep it simple and flattering and keep make-up to a minimum.
5. Alcohol consumption
We know that first dates can be nerve wrecking and having a few drinks may seem like a good idea at the time, but remember only continue if you can handle it – we don’t want you to make a fool of yourself.
Dating should be about being cool, calm and collected. Be yourself and don’t try to be someone or something that you aren’t in order to impress someone. We know that there are many things to worry or be nervous about but just keep our 5 dating mistakes to avoid in mind. Being honest and presenting your authentic self is important and remember that if your date doesn’t go according to plan, practice makes perfect. Remember to have fun and be yourself- good luck!
Written by Sarah Kantor