“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that every few times in your life; if you were lucky you might meet someone who was exactly right for you.” Here’s how to Date for Fun Without Being Too Attached:
“Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together” Lisa kleypas, blue-eyed Devil (transvises, #2)
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The truth about today’s relationships
A friend of mine once said, not everyone is meant to get married and not everyone is meant to stay single either. Everyone in life is destined for something, but the question of meeting a someone special is a maybe. Here are some tips on how not to get involved:
Remember the reason you don’t want to commit
It might be because commitment scares you or any other reason. When telling yourself that you want to be in a relationship for fun, you need to set up a constant reminder on why you shouldn’t get attached
Stick to that reason
Don’t let the idea of loving that person disturb you. You are human and you will end up having ideas of how things should be if you committed to the relationship, your mission is to have fun, adhere to that.
The plan is not to hurt anyone
You need to refrain from allowing the other person to fall in love with you, because that would hurt them – so keep it clean and let the other person enjoy your presence in their lives.
Stop the instigation
The idea was to get in a relationship for the fun of it, so the other person’s business should remain their business. You need to avoid questioning their lives and fighting them on the things they do – ignore them and have a blissful time with the person.
Avoid the love magnets
We know that a song can make or change the way you feel about a person and it can influence or cultivate feelings for that person, so avoid listening to music that will make you fall in love.
There’s no future so stop the fantasy
Though you might be tempted to think about the should-bee’s and what the future might be with this person, avoid that – let it happen if it is supposed to be, but don’t create it because fun is not disappointing, right? …Exactly
Treasure the time you spend with that person
You don’t have to go deep and talk about personal things with the person, this person is your sun on a cloudy day, and the intention for them being in your life is to help you step back from anything serious.
If you follow these simple rules, you will be distanced from the pain that comes with loving a person and all the commitment that comes with it. You will realise that it is possible to get in a relationship without commitment because for all you know commitment might hurt you and leave you disappointed and numb to love. Date for fun … it can work.