A man’s brain varies tremendously over his life span, quickly contradicting the image of the single-minded sex addict that circulates in mainstream consciousness. In this presentation, you’ll learn about common misconceptions, such as men wanting to sow their wild oats forever. And you’ll learn how vulnerable men are to loneliness, and why men are so frustratingly focused on solutions. In short, gals, here’s what you need to know about guys’ minds.
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Covet wedding bells, too
Infidelities are most likely to occur before men hit 30. Of course, some men have a harder time with commitment than others — a problem which could be genetic. Men without the “promiscuity gene,” an estimated 60 percent of the population, are more likely to marry. But that’s not all. Both they and their wives are also more likely to report relative marital bliss, the researchers found.
An unstable hierarchy can cause men considerable anxiety. But an established chain of command, such as that practiced by the military and many work places, reduces testosterone and curbs male aggression.
Pre-occupation with establishing pecking order, which starts as early as age 6, motivates the “male dance”, where they are always putting each other down. It is better to be aggressive in a verbal jab than to duke it out.
The mature male
Over the course of evolution, men have needed to compete for status and mates while young and emphasize bonding and cooperation when mature. Men seem to agree; and psychological studies have shown that one-upmanship holds less appeal for older men. Instead, they pay more attention to relationships and bettering the community.
The change is likely aided by the slow natural decline in testosterone as a man ages. Men with high testosterone levels tend to be better at one-on-one competition, while those with lower levels excel at competitions requiring team cooperation.
Daddy-specific ways of playing with their kids — more rough-housing, more spontaneity, more teasing — can help kids learn better, be more confidant, and prepare them for the real world, studies have shown. Also, involved dads lessen risky kids’ sexual behavior.
Fathers that actively parent tend to have lower testosterone levels. While it is not known if the hormone levels cause the behavior or vice versa, researchers theorize that evolution has favored involved dads. Human children are among the neediest of the animal kingdom and good dads optimize the chance that their offspring — and their genes — survive.
Must defend turf
Part of the male job, evolutionarily-speaking, is to defend turf. More research is needed in humans but in other male mammals, the “defend my turf” brain area is larger than their female counterparts. While women too have fits of possessiveness, men are much more likely to become violent when faced with a threat to their love life or territory.
Hard-wired to check out women
While often linked to aggression and hostility, testosterone is also the hormone of the libido. And guys have six times the amount surging through their veins as women. Testosterone impairs the impulse-control region of the brain. While it has yet to be studied, this may explain why, men ogle women as if on “auto-pilot.” They often forget about the woman once she is out of their visual field.
Focused on solutions
While many studies suggest that women are more empathetic than men, this is not entirely true. The empathy system of the male brain does respond when someone is stressed or expressing a problem. But the “fix-it” region quickly takes over.
This hub does a Google search of the entire brain to come up with a solution. As a result, men tend to be more concerned with fixing a problem than showing solidarity in feeling.
More vulnerable to loneliness
While loneliness can take a toll on everyone’s health and brain, older men seem particularly vulnerable. Men tend to reach out less than women, which exacerbates loneliness and the toll it takes on their brains’ social circuits. Living with women may be particularly helpful. Men in stable relationships tend to be healthier, live longer and have hormone levels that may indicate decreased anxiety, studies have shown.
Women might also be good for a guy’s gonads. Male mice living with females remained fertile longer than their isolated cousins.
While females are usually considered the more emotional gender, infant boys are more emotionally reactive and expressive than infant girls, researchers have found. Adult men have slightly stronger emotional reactions, too — but only before they are aware of their feelings. Once the emotion reaches consciousness, however, men adopt a poker face.
When young, boys likely learn to hide emotions that culture considers “unmanly.” But tamping down emotion also spurs the body’s “fight or flight” response. A man’s strong reaction and subsequent suppression may ready him to handle a threat.
Found on: http://www.livescience.com/