You know the feelings you get when you’re falling for someone new: the butterflies, the constant desire to want to chat or text them, the sudden need to buy a completely new wardrobe just to impress them, even though your bank account is in complete disagrees with you.
When you first start falling for someone, the feelings can get really intense and there’s a sense of excitement that’s hard to describe with words. When you’re beginning to fall in love with someone, the symptoms can feel similar. That’s what makes it so hard to distinguish between love and like, or even infatuation.
Everybody wants to be in love, but how do you know if you truly are? Here are some questions to ask to be sure!
Do you feel your brains turn to mush as soon as cupids arrow spears your heart?
Did your heart ever become your goal?
Did he become your whole world?
Do you feel the need to control him?
Do you want to be his everything?
Did you ever change your entire world to be with him?
Did he, for you?
Do you want his eyes to be only on you?
Do you feel like you can never say anything right?
Do you try to share your thoughts with him, only to alienate him?
Do you tear your hair out every time he looks at you like you are an alien?
Do you wish today was as sweet as the first day that you laid your eyes on him?
Do you wish you had never heard any stories about his past?
Do you wish he never heard yours?
Do you expect him to read your mind?
Do you think you can read his mind?
Do you worry about things that he cannot even comprehend?
Do you imagine his answers, when he gives you none?
Do you constantly question his feelings for you?
Do you question his every decision?
Do you feel like a wallflower?
Do you wish he would not interpret your needs for weakness?
Did you grow up believing love would be safe and non confronting?
Do you like the feeling of mistrust?
Do you feel that you are the only one in this relationship?
Did you ever think that you would feel so torn apart when you argued with someone?
Did you think that you could be so hateful with someone you love so much?
Did you ever look just at someone and just feel total unconditional love for them?
Did you think that he too would feel incompetent during sex?
Do you know that he too suffers when you look upon him with disappointment?
Does he try to reach out to you in his time of need for affection and understanding?
Do you turn away from him, hoping that he will turn to you?
Do you feel like hiding from his eyes when you feel threatened by another female?
Does he understand you at that time?
Does he support you when you feel weak and failing?
Do you support him?
Do you allow him inside your head when all you want to do is die?
Do you come home and ask him how his day was?
Do you reach for him in the quiet of the night?
Does he reach out to you?
Does he make you feel sexy with just one look?
Do you crave his touch?
Does he kiss you passionately?
Do you kiss him back?
Do you love him with all your heart and soul?
Would you die for him?
Would he die for you?
I know that I have definitely reached each one of you reading, with at least one of these thought provoking questions. Did you ever think such a small sweet word like LOVE could be so full of emotions and feelings?
Love has so many meanings:
Love means trust, even when all the cards are against you.
Love means to understand at all costs.
Love means accept all without question.
Love means allowing a stranger into your heart.
Love means smiling when anyone else would frown.
Love means hugging when he cries.
Love means being silent when silence is needed.
Love means putting his feelings first.
Love means being fair.
Love means expecting fairness.
Love means commitment.
Love means fitting together.
Love means laughter.
Love means partnership.
Love means being independent.
Love means forgiveness.
Love means patience.
Love means pain.
Love means sacrifice.
Love means supporting.
Love means feeling complete.
Love means never going to bed mad.
Love means GIFT.
If you have the gift of love, cherish it, nurture it, and treat it with respect.
Never push it away, or hurt it. Never, ever abuse it, or treat it like a doormat. Embrace it.
To have the gift of love is truly an inner beauty feeling. People say they love, but truly they have no clue what love is. Love can be just as painful as it can be beautiful. It can turn on you in a heartbeat. It can become your worst enemy. It can twist your world and turn it upside down, leaving you feeling alone and empty. Love is a very powerful gift. It is when one finds true love that all of the feelings, good and bad come together. That is when they are organized and compromised to make two people into one. It is when we are one that we join forces against the world and battle together. Sometimes it feels easier to go it alone, but it is the word, “alone” that really scares me. I would rather risk it all with someone, then to be alone. To say yes to the questions above tells you that you have risked it and are in love!
“I believe that we are here for each other, not against each other. Everything comes from an understanding that you are a gift in my life – whoever you are, whatever our differences.” – John Denver