What if I’ve never had an orgasm? Or Can’t Orgasm?
First, you are not alone. Many women — about one out of three — have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex with a partner. This is even more common for younger women who are just beginning to explore sexual relationships. Getting to know your own body and preferences will make sex more pleasurable and can help you discover what brings you to orgasm.
If you have never experienced orgasm, you can teach yourself by experimenting what type of touch and stimulation arouses you and what gives you pleasure. For most women, masturbation is the most direct route to an orgasm. Practically all women who reach orgasm with a partner have also had an orgasm from masturbation. Every woman’s body reacts differently to different stimulation, so there’s no right or wrong way to masturbate.. You should experiment with different pressures and rhythms of touching. You can try different types of stimuli: fingers, vibrator, or even a stream of warm water. the key to good orgasm is to get to know your body.
There can also be other factors which might inhibit you to experience orgasm. Anxiety that you won’t have an orgasm can totally repress your sexual reaction. If you take the focus off experiencing an orgasm and just being in the moment and enjoying that, it can be very helpful. Concentrate on the actual physical senses rather than thinking.