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Getting your MIND over Fatter


When we pop our head out the womb, our neural pathways are unformed and we understand little about how our world works, or what is expected of us.  But we soon learn that if I cry, I get picked up; and if I continue to cry, I’m likely to get. As I experience life, my neural pathways are laid down based on my experiences.  Then we group information into a meaning-making system which then later determines how we live our lives.

 

When we pop our head out the womb, our neural pathways are unformed and we understand little about how our world works, or what is expected of us.  But we soon learn that if I cry, I get picked up; and if I continue to cry, I’m likely to get. As I experience life, my neural pathways are laid down based on my experiences.  Then we group information into a meaning-making system which then later determines how we live our lives.

Once these neural pathways are set, we continue to select information that fits what we already believe, and in this way we continue to create our own reality.  Once these neural pathways have been laid down, it’s not what happens externally to us that matters as much as the internal meaning that we give to what has happened. I say this because it is the meaning we derive from events that determines how we feel and react, which is why we often experiences such discrepancies in the ways different people perceive and then react to events. This is good news, for while we have very little say about what happens to us, we can certainly choose to react differently to what has happened.

This is why, on the Mind over Fatter journey, it is about freeing our minds from old restrictive patterns that limit us into living less of a life that is important.  How comfortably you live in your body has much less to do with how you appear on the outside than how you feel about your body on the inside.  If you think your body has grown fatter over time because you are weak-willed and have no self-control, you’re likely to feel guilty and distressed.  If you think your body has grown fatter over time because you have believed all the junk fed to you by the diet guru’s, you may experience anger.  If you live in a culture where to be fat is honoured as being fertile and wealthy, you will feel happy.

If you lived in a historical era when voluptuous and ample bodies were considered to be the standard of beauty, your would have felt sexy and desirable.  It’s our meaning-making patterns, which are strongly influenced by our cultural conditioning, that determine what we will feel and hence how we will react.

I remember once attending a training course where the presenter showed one side of the room a line drawing of a beautiful young woman and the other side saw a line-drawing of an old hag.  He then showed the whole room another same line-drawing and asked what we saw.  Each side of the room only saw the picture of whichever version of the woman they had been shown previously. Dr.  Maxwell Maltz the author of Psychocybernetics tells stories about how people who have had external changes made, often look at themselves through such distorted eyes, that they cannot see what anyone who knew them before can see.

Their internal beliefs limit them from seeing what others can see. We first gather information, then it goes through our meaning-making filter which a) searches for information consistent with what we already believe, b) rejects information that is inconsistent with our beliefs and c) distorts or generalizes information so that it suits our beliefs, in order to come up with our interpretation of events.  Sadly, exterior changes are often still viewed through a faulty lens.  So even though, the cellulite has gone, the ‘fat’ mind cannot see it has gone.

Have you seen tamed elephants standing quietly, tied only to a small wooden stake, and wondered why they don’t run away?  Elephants could easily pull the tiny stake out the ground, yet they don’t.  This is because when they were still young and weak they were securely chained to an immovable iron stake.   No matter how hard they tried, they could not break free.  In time, no matter how large and strong the elephant became, provided it saw the stake, it continued to believe that it could not move.

Research done with 3 groups of women showed that women dieters who had dieted themselves down to a ‘normal’ weight, still had fat self-esteem and fared no better than the still overweight group. You can gym and trim, diet and fight… but until you change your mindset, even though you may have changed your body considerably, without mindset changes, it could be for naught.  Humans become ‘immobilized’ by similar mental ‘stakes’. It is not the external reality but the internal messages that keep us pegged.

We are conditioned to believe in lists of ‘legal’ versus ‘illegal’ foods; what counts as exercise and what doesn’t, what is a good body versus a bad body, but these are all socially constructed ideas that change from one culture to a next and one historical period to the next.  If you want to break free of Diet City, the place to start is not with your body, but with your mind, which is exactly why fad diets cannot work in the longer term and why getting your Mind over Fatter does.

By cinical psychologist Cari Corbet-Owen of Mind Over Fatter

If you’re tired of the diet rat race and want to get off the diet superhighway to fatness please send an e.mail to info@mindoverfatter.co.za and we’ll happily send you an e.brochure or go to www.mindoverfatter.co.za where you can subscribe to our free e.newsletter or join our free online Mind over Fatter support group.

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