We’re almost two months into the year. In January we are all so optimistic about the weight we’ll lose, the debt we’ll pay off, the bad habits we’ll quit… the list goes on. But to be honest how many of those resolutions are you still sticking with?
By definition, a resolution is a firm decision to do or not do something, which sounds easy enough in theory. The only problem is that we are only human, so we’re going to slip up in just about everything we do. Therefore a “firm decision” to give up sugar suddenly becomes a “firm decision” to tell your diet to shove it, the second you inhale a slice of cake (faster than you can actually say cake). When we lose track of a resolution, we tend to throw the towel in all together. We’re ashamed of our failure to stick with all those “firm decisions” and so we move on.
But goals? You see, a goal is simply an object of one’s ambition or a desired result. A goal is perfectly suited for our flawed, human lifestyle. Because even when you mess up, you can still work toward the same desired result. Simply adjust the course and get back on track.
So in the spirit of shifting from resolutions to goals, here are a few takeaways for you to get started:
1. Write down as many goals as you can.
As many as you possibly can! (least 50.) It may feel greedy, overwhelming, or like you’re setting yourself up for failure. But the more you dig the more you’ll realize the things you really want. You’ll discover gems buried deep inside you that you didn’t even realize.
DON’T BE INTIMIDATED BY THE TYPE OF GOALS. NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE AS EPIC AS WINNING THE PULITZER PRIZE
Don’t be intimidated by the kind of goals they are either. Not everything has to be as epic as winning the Pulitzer Prize (nor should it all be—be realistic, people). Think of it as a bucket list. Where are the places you’ve always wanted to travel? The books you’ve wanted to read? Is there a lesson (dance? art? writing?) that you’ve always wanted to take? Now stretch a little more. What are the experiences you want? Sure, I love to travel and I want to see the whole wide world. But I want to experience seeing Alaska with my dad (the only state he’s never been to). I want to experience the Almalfi Coast with my mom because I’ve told her a million times how much she would love Capri. Don’t limit yourself in any way, shape, or form. Just start writing it all down.
2. Set timelines.
Once you have your goals down, think about when you could actually accomplish them and set some deadlines for yourself. Sure, it may be a goal of mine to fund a school for women in India but I’m taking crazy pills if I think it’s happening next week. And the fact that I want to write a book someday is great! But if I don’t have a deadline in mind, pretty soon my someday will be never. I’ve found the easiest way to divvy your list up is to categorize each goal with a 1, 3, 5, or 10. Is this something I want to achieve in one year? Three years? Five or ten? Start with your one year goals and focus on accomplishing those first. And those 10-year goals? What are some steps you could take to get closer to them? Add those things to your one, three, or five-year list.
THE REAL MAGIC HAPPENS WHEN YOU START TO SHARE YOUR GOALS
3. Find some accountability.
Writing down goals is an accomplishment in itself. But the real magic happens when you share them with people (especially people who care about you and your happiness). Saying something out loud (not just to yourself, but to the people around you) motivates you to actually do something about it. It means I can ask you if you’ve booked that trip to Peru yet, or how those Spanish lessons are going. No more slinking silently into the shadows and giving up when the going gets tough.
4. Give yourself grace to change your mind.
Many lists ago, I set the goal that I wanted to get into watercolor painting (I took an art history class and suddenly I felt artsy and intellectual). Turns out, I found painting to be terribly boring (and also that I’m terrible painter). So I took that right off my list. But guess what? I’m no longer haunted by the thought of wondering if I could have been the next Monet, but never tried. That’s a big fat negative. On to the next dream.
5. Know why you want it.
Take a look at all those goals on your list. Now ask yourself why you want to accomplish them. Is it for shallow bragging rights? Because that’s the lamest motivation I’ve ever heard. It’s gotta be more meaningful.
For me, a large majority of my goals involve travel and I understand why. Because I know the feeling I get when airplane wheels leave the runway or when I arrive in new, uncharted territory that I’ve never explored before. I understand what that unexplainable heart racing, adrenaline pumping, fullness of life feels like when I’m doing what I love the most. And it motivates me to do whatever it takes to keep doing more of it.
Join us next week to learn more about Goal Setting and how you can set up you goal setting and achievement plan. Free spaces available to a limited number of people on each day.