Do you think your child can easily come to you with any problem that they might be facing? Always strive to be the kind of parent that your child can easily come and talk to about anything bothering them.
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When children are younger, all they seem to do is talk, talk and talk. They engage you in conversation and ask tons of questions that you sometimes do not have the answers to.
When they are a little bit older, the lines of communication between you and your child tend to fade or become totally non-existent. They will answer questions and tell you things that they need, but they will most likely not be easily forthcoming about every minute details of their lives.
Keeping it all in
Today, kids are immersed in social networking sites, texting and “BFF-syndrome” (sharing everything with a best friend forever).
Online many kids face cyber-bullying, being taunted and humiliated by their peers. Some face problems at school such as not coping and some kids face extreme situations such as abuse, depression, etc. Many of these children keep these problems from their parents and often suffer alone.
Reasons why they don’t confide in their parents:
1. They feel like their parents will not take their problems seriously.
2. They do not know how to talk to their parents.
3. They may feel like they will be ridiculed.
4. They do not want to cause their parents to worry.
5. They genuinely feel alone and that their parents will not listen to them.
6. Some get the impression that their parents do not want to know everything. “They are your parents, not your friends”.
Communication is key
As a parent, there is only so much you can do to ensure that your child knows that they can come to you with whatever situation that they are facing.
However, let your kid know that you are always going to take time, no matter how busy, to listen to them when they need to talk.
Develop a trusting relationship between you and your child and make sure that they know that you are always on their side and will believe whatever they tell you to be true.
You need to know your child well enough to know when something is bothering them. Your child needs to know that you care enough to take time to find out what is going on in their lives.
Teenage suicides are way too common and there are too many children who suffer from depression and hurt themselves in a bid to get attention from their parents. Make the effort to talk to your child even if you find it hard to do so.
Make your child feel free and willing to come to you and always listen to their opinions – this way, communication becomes a habit and comes easily.